There is not much on the net that I found useful in terms of "How to Have Better Cybersex". RLC signs people up and throws them into the ocean. My "travels" and I'm sure the experiences of the Noir team indicate that perhaps people could use a little help with that problem. It is a complicated subject, so I had to put a lot of thought into this.... there will be at least one other essay posted, probably more. ************* It is said that in human beings sex is 90% in the head.
In RLC it is 100%. I don't know how much of the 90% in the head thing is evolution or it is the result of living in civilizations.
We all have need and wants. Men's needs and wants, his motivations, are different from those of women.
The more you understand the motivations, the better a friend and lover you can be.
Soem of the needs and wants are hardwired.... evolutionary... from caveman times and even before. A lot of these things are in place to ensure survival of the species as we evolved.
Men... I think mentally healthy ones... are wired at a basic level to mate (have sex), and also to Provide and Protect their women and children. Women... again on very basic level.... are wired to mate (have sex) , but also to nurture and support. A lot of behavior stems from these primal instincts.
There is a a very basic need of all humans for security.
Insecurity, that is fear which was built into us as a survaival instinct. A part of that is the need for reassurance, comfort, love and so on. The love of man, at least the love of THIS man comes from being Provider-Protector. The love of women, for the most part, I have found to be different.
What is the cure for inecurity? Reassurance.
What are affraid of? First of being alone, Humans are social beings. We are not hatched from eggs, we are conceived, gestated and born alive. We are worried about our mortality.... and all it comes with.
For men, in youth "will I be enough", as an older person, as the body slows down we see ourselves falling apart. For women, "am I attractive, will I have someone, am I enough", and as older, a lot of the same. There are many more examples, of course.
Now, slap 10,000 years or so of civilization and society, and things for individuals and between men and women get complicated..... maybe more so with every passing decade or century. Yes, I am generalizing, we are complicated creatures and this is a complicated subject,and one has to start somewhere.
How the above writing relates to RLC and cybersex, is a long leap. That story is more about how for the most part Western Civilization came from prehistoric times to the 2000s. More to follow. Dogfather 42 Phil
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personalmente mi sento mentalmente coinvolta e l'immaginazione mi porta a vivere le situazioni in una dimensione di reale accettazione del mio ruolo provando nella realtà tutto quello che ne deriva in ordine di amplessi e penso sia così anche per i patners
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I hope this translates well. I understood it however my main language is English... "The cybersex, it is true that mostly in RLC, 99% is the engine, xo, it is true that mostly in RLC, 99% is the engine, but is it real? Is it sincere? it's true? is it a simple exchange of needs? what motivates you? is it a game for some? Does it become serious for some? I think there is a lot of falsehood, a lot of hypocrisy in the behaviors. A lot of simulation and deception. And all this falls within the game that is accepted by both parties. But there is also the other possibility, that two people begin to know each other and it is true that sex is the original reason that unites them, but they get to know each other (without seeing each other) and they realize that they like to be together, that it has tastes that unite them. And here begins the difficult thing to be able to find the balance. It is not easy because sometimes one wants more and the other party does not want their real life to be invaded. And in the case of being a Lady of Noir one part You have to accept that the lady has more relationships. It is not easy for either party. When you have enough strength not to get emotionally involved and the other party understands it, then there is no problem, but when emotions arise, things become more difficult. But there are those who pass that moment and realize that they want something more. keep going. For that you have to be a great lady of Noir and also and above all be very sincere, only then is the desired balance achieved I do not know if the words in English express exactly what I wanted to express, but I hope it can be understood"
auto_awesomeTraducir del: español volume_up 1880 / 5000 Resultados de traducción El ciberse auto_awesome Traducir del: español 1737/5000 Resultados de traducción El cibersexo, es verdad que en su mayoria en RLC, el 99% es el motor, xo, es verdad que en su mayoria en RLC, el 99% es el motor, pero es real? Es sincero? ¿es verdadero? es un simple intercambio de necesidades? que lo motiva? es un juego para algunos? Se convierte en algo serio para algunos? Creo que hay mucha falsedad, mucha hipocrisia en los comportamientos .Mucha simulacion y engaño.Y todo esto entra dentro del juego que se accept por ambas partes. Pero tambien existe la otra posibilidad, la de que dos personas se empiezan a conocer y es verdad que el sexo es el motivo original que los une, pero se van conociendo (sin verse) y se dan cuenta que les gusta estar juntos, que tiene gustos que les une.Y aqui empieza lo dificil.poder encontrar el equilibrio.No es facil porque a veces uno quiere mas y la otra parte no desea que su vida real sea invadida.Y en el caso de ser una dama de Noir una parte tiene que accept que la dama tiene mas relaciones.No es facil para ningun de las partes. Cuando se tiene la fuerza suficiente para no implicarse emocionalmente y lam otra parte lo entiende, entonces no hay problema, pero cuando surjen emociones las cosas se hacen mas dificiles. Pero hay quien pasa ese momento y se da cuenta que quiere algo mas. seguir adelante .Para eso hay que ser una gran dama de Noir y ademas y sobretodo ser muy sincera, solo asi se consigue el equilibrio deseado No se si las palabras en inglés expresaran exactamente lo que he querido espresar, pero espero que se pueda entender volume_up content_copy share star_border Más información sobre este texto de origen Para obtener más información sobre la traducción, se necesita el texto de origen
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I have to agree with you Dog and double Rita statement: Mutual respect! Noir is a "gentleman club" and one becoming member know what to expect as much as Noir ladies know what to provide. In this line of thinking mutual respect is a must and above all each one imaginary provides to the other and to him/herself the satisfaction expected.
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You are noticed in the party DogFather !
Es nuestra Cyndi y la queremos tal como es¡¡¡¡
Yes, @Cyndi_J_ is pretty smart when she takes off that blond wig, and shows off her ginger! * Ducking and running away *
Cyndi sabes expresar de una forma linda lo que muchas pensamos y eso es lo que nos hace querer nuestro NOIR
what you say phil has a word to express it: MUTUAL RESPECT
Phil,
I'll state, IMHO, that while reassurance is part of the cure for insecurity, acceptance is the preventive. Acceptance of self, for being what you are, and acceptance by others, for being what you are.
As we are all individuals, whether man or female, why we came here differ as to who we are. Looking past what our primal needs are as DF said. It depends on each individual and their needs if they being met. Some are if they are lucky enough to meet a like minded individual and a connection is made. All sex is good but some is outstanding if a true connection can be made. As DF said sex is in the mind, open it to all possibilities and truly connecting to a person and great sex will happen. JUST MY OPINION
Hi, Phil, you have opened a nice topic about Cybersex. I would put a point here that while we are in a digital platform (RLC) we may have still that 90% of sex without even doing cybersex. We would need a definition of it since for most people out of digital worlds believe that cybersex is anything in the internet.... while i was writing suddently Cyndi's blonde photo pop up!!!! haha...
Blondes ain't complicated! Just don't use big words and we are fine!!!! :))))